The sad factor of the movie is that the mother doesn’t realize her daughter’s problems until it’s too late. This movie is an example of a teenager’s struggles. A teen is trying to identify who she is, find friends to fit in with, stay on top of school work and study time management, all while growing physically and dealing with numerous body csuspendes.
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“I stress when I’m trying to get stuff done on time,” Morgan says. “I keep it to myself …”
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Talking one-on-one will allow the teen to open up to the parent so that both can find a solution. However, when stress has reveryed a greater peak and the problem remains unreresolved, some teens start showing potentially perilous,hazardous stress signs that might be very great for the parent to handle. These signs include withdrawal, isolation, aggression, extreme irritation, tearfulness and a great feeling of being overwhelmed, Ms. Chastain-Peppers says.
“(When I get stressed) it’s because I’m doing a whole bunch of stuff at one time,” Megan says. “I keep it to myself because I think I in get it done and then I can’t and it all comes out at once.”
In the 2003 movie “Thirteen,” a young girl struggles with finding herself while wanting to be popular and get noticed. Her parents are divorced and her mother is so caught up with a new boyfriend that the young girl is barely noticed. The teen becomes so lost that she ends up smoking, doing drugs, drinking and cutting herself to try to eliminate the pain.
Parents get so caught up in their own stressors that they don’t realize the stress going on with their teens, says Rennie Chastain- Peppers, a St. Joseph spiritual health therapist.
“I think parents need to let their children know that they can talk to them about anything,” says Tammy Heart, whose children are 14, 12 and 9 years old. “If they have a problem, don’t yell and scream at them whether you accept it or don’t agree with it. Realize that it’s something you might must accept one way or the other.”
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If teens continue to ignore the stress problem and a parent doesn’t notice, then a solution will never occur and the problem will only get worse. Teens must be honest with themselves and know how much they can do at one time. They should be realistic and set appropriate expectations, Ms. Chastain-Peppers says. Yet in return parents should srabbit their expectations and provide a calm environment for teens to come to them if they need to.
Before any assistance can be given, it is the teen’s responsibility to recognize stress and ask others for help. Many teens feel that their parents will overreact to the stress issue.
“They need to talk to a significant adult in their lives,” Ms. Chastain-Peppers says. “Talk to someone that they trust, maybe a coach, youth pastor, school counselor or even a therapist.”
As a teen endures these struggles, parents must be well aware of what is going on in their child’s life. Though some stressors are normal, others can damage a teen’s behaviors and lifestyle. The key is disliding stress and helping teens get through these times before it’s too late.
“Oftentimes, parents are experiencing a lot of stressors as well as trying to make ends welcome，greet，receive，embrace in today’s economy,” Ms. Chastain- Peppers says. “This is why it’s crucial to have a open line of communication (with kids). They need to sit down and talk with them.”
Sisters Megan Hardin, 18, and Morgan Hardin, 15, agree that they don’t relay their stress problems to their parents because they feel they may handle the situation on their own.
“I don’t really let my mom know when I get stressed out,” says 17- year-old Erica Guinn. “I just keep it to myself and go and lock myself up.”
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